Saturday, December 29, 2012

New Years Resolution For Patience

 
 
Happy New Year

 
I don't normally make New Year resolutions.  I found out long time ago that I was not very good at keeping them.  Lets just say "willpower" is not something I excel in.  Note the name of this blog.
 
So, instead of making a resolution I am making a promise to myself.  I will find joy in the small things, cherish every moment with my family,  show patience and understanding in difficult situations and let my loved ones know how very much they mean to me.
  
I found this sweet letter on Pinterest and wanted to share it with you.


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Letter from a Father to a Daughter:

"My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day... the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you... my darling daughter. "
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When things get difficult I go back to read this letter and realize any sacrifices I make are
nothing compared to those my dad made for me. 

Dad,  I wonder when I was a teenager if you made the same promise to
to be patient with meLord knows, I tested your patience every chance I got!

My life is filled with many blessings.  Thank you for your friendship, encouragement
and support throughout 2012.
 
 

41 comments:

NanaDiana said...

I have read this before but it makes me cry every single time I read it-it is so touching. Blessings- xo Diana

Kim @ Savvy Southern Style said...

How sweet and it made me cry. No, I have learned not to make resolutions, too.

Happy New Year my friend!

ℳartina @ Northern Nesting said...

Thank you for sharing this touching letter with us Sherry! Happy New Year!!

Michele @ The Nest at Finch Rest said...

Sherry,

I am sitting here bawling my eyes out. You see, today is my Dad's birthday, and I lost him 12 years ago.

Thank you for sharing this, somehow I feel you were lead to do so, more than we can understand.

Happy New Year to you and yors.

Sarah said...

Sherry, this is a wonderful statement. So true! Patience is important old or young. ;-)
Thanks for sharing and have a Happy New Year! ~ Sarah

Shannon Fox said...

I have read that one before. Good choice. Wishing you a Happy New Year!

Pam@OurAdventuresInHomeImprovement said...

I love the letter! So true!
Thanks for sharing. I hope you have a Very Happy (and patient) 2013.

Pam

Debra @ Common Ground said...

such a sweet and very poignant post. good advice for all of us with failing parents. Have a blessed New Year, dear Sherry!

Ann from On Sutton Place said...

What a lovely post...well said, all of it. I care for my parents on my own too. I do, to some extent, know what you are going through. Hoping 2013 brings you peace. Happy New Year Sherry...Ann

Ramblings of a Southern Girl ~ Rhonda G said...

Beautiful, precious poem and lovely post! Blessings to you for the New Year!

Elizabeth@ Pine Cones and Acorns said...

SHerry this is beautiful and brought tears o my eyes. I am sure that your dad feels so blessed to have ou care or him. My thought and prayers are with you.

Happy new year, Elizabeth

jeanetteann said...

Very touching. I don't really make New Years resolutions as I set myself little ones throughout the year. xx

Kathryn J Cain said...

tears both a mom and dad thank u

Art and Sand said...

I love your sweet story. We just returned from our annual family Christmas vacation. Usually we go skiing, but this year we went to Kauai for a week. Both my husband and I just turned 64. My daughter (30) was watching her dad out in the surf and she commented that this is the first time she has seen us when her thoughts were "they are looking old". We talked about our aging and how hard it is for her to see. We always joke about her taking care of us when we are really old. I am not sure she is ready for me to share your story right now, but I will save it for the right time.

Thanks so much for sharing this.

srpprcrftr said...

Happy New Year Sherry It made me cry but:
I'm so glad you posted that letter. Think I'm going to edit it a little and send it to two of my kids that live fairly close by but don't think we matter anymore to see us anytime, let alone the holidays. I know our daughter gets impatient with me when I repeat things I've already told her, can hear it in her voice, she only calls us when she has little time and has to rush off. I'm only 72 1/2 but am getting older and forget things and I can't hear well at all on the phone.
I wonder if I was impatient with my Mother sometimes and am very ashamed to think I was. Things come home to roost so to speak when we get older and need to remember how we treated a parent and how we'd like to be treated now.
Hubs and I feel like both of us could croak and nobody would know until we stunk up the neighborhood, lol. We've even thought of moving away and not telling them we were going.
Our son that lives close can't see us due to dil problems and we don't get to communicate with his two kids. Family stuff can really be hard. DIL told me my son doesn't want me in his life due to problems I had/have when kids were young.
You might be thinking you opened up a can of worms posting that letter. Holidays can be really hard.
But we soldier on. On Christmas day I kept busy so I wouldn't ruin the day with my depression for my hubs. He deserves more. We had a nice quiet day and did get to talk to two of the kids (out of 4). Two oldest live in San Diego area.
Ok forgive me for going on, guess our can of worms wouldn't stay shut. Happy New year. Hope your Dad is doing well.

PamLuvsPink said...

Hi Sherry!!

Thank you my friend for this beautiful letter. I lost my dad on April 16th/12. Going into the new year is very emotional for me as it is the first time that he won't be there.

I still have my mom and talk to her everyday. Turning diabetic at 9, my mom was there for me in so many ways and still is. She is a great mom.

Thank you.
Pam
xox

Maria said...

Such a lovely post thanks Sherry. I love your 'resolutions' for the NY...what a great idea!

lisa said...

Oh,, how did you know !

as I sit here on an early Sunday morning.. my 87 yr old Mom is living with us due to illness.
she has been 'hard of hearing' most of my life & it is more of a struggle now for her to hear & understand.

she can't stand completely upright & she hates that ,she needs help using the bathroom & HATES that .

As she sat the other day ready to get dressed, she said Lisa, " I wish I could do something to help around here ."

I laughed ( teared up ) & replied.. mom , you have helped all your life !

a good friend from another nsltr told me he learned ,the care for our parents is a privilege that few are blessed enough to enjoy :-) I told him as I sit & help with pant legs & stubborn socks , I wonder just how many times mom has done the same .. for her 6 kids & 17 grandkids, not to mention ALL the kids in her SS classes & perfect strangers :-)

I haven't finished reading your newsltr yet, I'll have to go & get my hankie ..

just wanted to thank you for the reminder of the blessings we enjoy & don't always see it..

God Bless, Lisa

Betsy@ coastal-colors said...

Sherry, this is so touching! I know where you are because I'm caring for our parents too. Thank you for sharing this! I'm printing it and keeping it near. Your post is very uplifting and so poignant! Blessing to you and your family in the New Year!

SheilaG @ Plum Doodles said...

Thank you for a sweet reminder, Sherry. I see my dad getting older and hope I can be as patient and giving as you are.

Ceekay-THINKIN of HOME/Doublewide Decor said...

Oh Sherry.....I learned for me a LONG time ago, not to ask for patience...because when I did, the Lord sent me things to help me build my patience! So good luck with that one!
Happy New Year!!

marty (A Stroll Thru Life) said...

Such a precious post and one I know you are living at the moment. God Bless you. Hugs, Marty

Sherry @ No Minimalist Here said...

srpprcrftr, It broke my heart to read your post. I see you do not have a blog and you have comments set for no reply. I hope you read this and email me (on sidebar). I pray that 2013 is the year you make amends with your children. Best of luck and take care. I am sending big hugs your way.
Sherry

-Lisa said...

I have never read this before-thank you so dearly for sharing it with me. It will and has held a place in my heart.
-Lisa

Gina said...

That is such a beautiful letter! It gives me chills whenever I've read it. Hang in there, Sherry.

Happy New Year to you & your family!

Poppy said...

Hi Sherry,

Your words are wise and meaningful. The letter, though anonymous, is something familiar to all. Simple, gentle words of patience and understanding. Special human traits that can be graciously shown by all.

Hope you have a Happy, Healthy New Year! Thanks for a beautifully written blog and your always warm and heartfelt presence.

Poppy xo

Leslie Harris said...

Sherry, I had never seen this letter before. Wow. It's so powerful and brings up so many feelings. I remember my dear grandfather forgetting things and I wonder, did I make him feel self conscious? And right now. How am I with my own parents? Do I give them my full attention even when they're repeating themselves? And yes, I also realize that this will be me someday. Thinking these same thoughts with my own sons. It's the cycle of life. And it's so humbling. Thanks Sherry. I always appreciate the warmth and kindness I find here.
Happy New Years my friend,
Leslie (aka Gwen Moss)

Jody and Stan said...

What a lovely post! Wishing you health, happiness and living your dreams in the New Year!

Jody

Still Woods Farmhouse said...

Hi Sherry,
Thank you for such a beautiful post. I am a new follower and am looking forward to sitting down to read more. Stop by Still Woods Farmhouse for a visit!

pink*cherub*moon said...

Beautiful post! Happy New Year to you and your family! Best wishes for all good things during the coming year! Hugs, Leena

Kelly said...

What a touching letter! It makes a lot of sense in it's meloncholy way. Hope you have a great new year too. I hope things continue to go well for you and your Dad.

Penny Phillips said...

Beautiful post..thank you for sharing it. Have a blessed and happy New Year! Hugs, Penny

Ron said...

Very moving! xo

Sheery, Thanks so much for your support of my blog, Uptown Acorn, in 2012. Thanks for the features, comments, and friendship.

http://uptownacorn.blogspot.com/2012/12/best-of-2012-my-first-year.html

At The Picket Fence said...

That was so beautiful Sherry! I know you have blessed so many by sharing from your heart and your experience...me included. Happy New Year to you! :-)
Vanessa

JP said...

Sherry...wishing you many moments left to cherish with your dad and that your love for him and his for you will help you to endure any challenges in times of trial. The poem was just so touching...thank you for sharing. It is one that I will save and hold onto for when my own health and memory begin to fade!

suzyq said...

Beautiful post Sherry.........absolutely beautiful.
Hugs,
Suzan

Shirley@Housepitality Designs said...

What a beautiful post Sherry....Yes, we must think about the times that our parents certainly had much patience with us through the years and then it comes full circle...I just listen and enjoy the story or a statement that my mom would repeat (without knowing) and act as though it was the first time she said it to me...I remember the first time I reminded her that she already told me "that" and she felt very bad...so, I do not do it anymore...I just listen and enjoy it again....Resolution?...none for me this year...I think it is just best that I strive to "celebrate life"...and find joy in the little things...
Happy New Year Sherry!...

Cindy @ Dwellings-The Heart of Your Home said...

BEAUTIFUL, I'm going to share this with my children and parents! Some of the best inspiration comes from Pinterest, so glad you found this and shared it with us!
Blessings,
Cindy

Sherry said...

What a beautiful post. Thanks for sharing!
Sherry

Andrea said...

Such a touching letter. I love your resolution.

Carol said...

This is so beautiful, Sherry, and such a treasure to hold onto, especially for those of us who are getting older and for the children we have raised.